The semi-stoic idea that you are born and that birth is a miracle would be beneficial to society if it were more prevalent. Some have said that anything beyond birth is just “icing on the cake.” I’m rather fond of this viewpoint since it allows me and many others to circumvent these entitled feelings of loss.
Felling loss is a negative and often crippling sentiment held by many who feel that they deserve more than what was allotted. In reality, the allotted amount was all that was meant to be had. The allotted amount was indeed miraculous in such a way that the only feelings of gratitude should be elicited. Yet, so often many feel that they did not receive all that was deserved. Sometimes these desires are additional years to the life of a loved one, and other times these desires are answers to questions that are unknown. The latter is commonly referred to as closure.
The idea of closure is a relatively new concept that has been added to long list of crippling entitlements that pop-psychology teaches us that we deserve. We have to stop and ask ourselves why this idea came about in the first place. Why does the human brain struggle in so much discomfort not having the answer? The reality is that if we were convinced that we did have the answer, it probably wouldn’t be the actual answer anyways.
With this notion, I know that I do not know and am quite comfortable freed from believing that I understand more than I do. The false sense of security gained from ideas such as closure would only serve to make me even more vulnerable to the unexpected.
“The quality of your life is in direct proportion to the amount of uncertainty you can comfortably live with” – Tony Robbins